Here's a workshop to run with your team. Works great on Zoom. Takes about an hour.

What you write will not be shared out loud, it's private to you. But I do encourage you, after the workshop, to communicate with the person you will write about.

Step 1

Write down something about another teammate that causes you to feel a negative emotion — anger, frustration, annoyance, jealousy, disappointment.

Example: I feel anger when Steve micromanages my slide deck designs.

Step 2

Write down the story associated with that emotion. Acknowledge that this story is putting you below the line — it's preventing you from feeling creative, curious, and optimistic.

Step 3

Write down what you are afraid of.

Step 4

Write down what you really want.

Example: What I really want is recognition and trust that I can do my job.

Step 5

Take 100% responsibility and ownership for how you are feeling. Write down specific ways that you have put yourself in this position.

Step 6–8

What else do you believe to be true? What if the opposite was true? Then approach from a place of Presence and curiosity.

Takeaways

There is a way to stand up for what you want while remaining open. Compromising isn't the same as allowing yourself to be taken advantage of. Seek to find a win for all.

The bite-sized summary: Realize the negative emotion → Accept yourself for feeling it → Be willing to feel the feeling (don't run from it) → Shift yourself to openness.

You can consciously shift your brain chemistry.